Thanks for your question.
I am a single working mum of 2 special needs boys; it can be challenging at times, so sometimes I really struggle. I have spent a lot of time reflecting about the needs of single mothers in this modern world; the judgments, expectations and responsibilities can be overwhelming, especially when you have little or no support.
I found that I needed to prioritise my emotional wellbeing above all else – yes, even above the kids. Because honestly, I am no good to the kids at all if my emotional battery is drained (remember that on an airplane, in an emergency, you need to fit your own oxygen mask before helping the kids?). The kids also need to learn that mum is a human being with emotions and feelings, not a servant/robot. When I teach them that I need time for myself to recharge, they learn to respect that. They also learn to speak up when they themselves need time to recharge and heal.
The best thing that helps me cope is meditation. When I regularly meditate everything else becomes effortless and simple. I found that if my mind is clean, I can be a wise and loving parent because I am not giving my children all my worries, and anxieties.
Meditation even helped me to manage my finances better, as I stopped spending needlessly, and live within my means. I was able to look around my house and sell anything I don’t need (kid’s old toys, for example). I also needed to educate myself on budgeting and making financial goals (lots of nights spent googling!). But trust me, you will feel super proud and never look back.
I really hope this helps
